Bolyn Weekly is published every week, sharing events in my life, things I’ve seen, and topics that interest me—even if it’s just some rambling most of the time.
Cover photo: The road outside the school’s athletics field
2025-05-18
A Perfect Intimate Relationship Doesn’t Require Mutual Dependence
This week, I made significant progress in understanding intimate relationships. After six months of contemplation, I wrote a summary article: One Person, Two Worlds.
About six months ago, when I realized I could directly pursue a PhD and my life’s trajectory for the next six years was largely set, I became very anxious. I wondered where I would be after six years, feeling uncertain about my future direction.
Yet, anxiety has no easy solution; one must seek their own answers. During my undergraduate years, I solved three problems:
- The first was a societal issue: how to confront complex current events and coexist with this barrage of information.
- The second was personal growth – understanding which direction I should take, knowing what destination I aspire to reach, and letting time reveal all.
- The only unresolved matter is relationships with people. Ordinary social interactions can be maintained through shared activities, but I lack the ability to sustain a relationship purely through emotions—perhaps it will remain that way.
While my recent reflections on intimate relationships feel complete, the reality often diverges from my ideal. I may come close to it or perhaps not, but my aim remains to find an answer.
Emotions Don’t Last Overnight
Express your feelings as they arise; otherwise, unexpressed emotions may catch you off guard on a lonely night.
Ideas Are Not as Important as Expression
Only through expression can you receive feedback—whether positive or negative. It is the way you communicate with the world. Without expression, there is no communication, and thus, you lose touch with reality.
Living in society and experiencing the world to its fullest is something most people strive for, and so do I.
Graduation Project
This week, I nearly finished my graduation project. All the materials and the defense presentation are completed. I might need to add a few new elements later, but overall, it’s just that.
Suddenly, it feels a bit meaningless—what’s been done already foreordains the outcome, and grades will reflect that. My actions have little impact on the result; I simply follow the necessary steps.
It’s meaningful, yet rather unexciting. My feelings are complex—after finishing the graduation project, I’ll start on a new topic. I’m not sure how long the holiday will be, but I hope for more time since this is the last truly significant break of my student life.
Other
However, my undergraduate work isn’t over until the final article is written. I have the title and the opening sorted, but I’m still figuring out how to complete the story. I hope to make some progress next week.